I’ve been seeing more and more posts lately—people talking about how hard it can feel to live alone. The quietness. The evenings that stretch a little too long. The sense that everyone else is busy with someone else, while you’re just… here.
If that’s you, this post is for you.
It’s Not Always a Choice
Some people live alone by choice. Others don’t.
Maybe you lost someone. Maybe a relationship ended. Maybe you moved to a new city, or away from flatmates, or just reached a point in life where circumstances put you here.
Whatever the reason, living alone can sometimes feel like being stuck between chapters. You know this isn’t the final destination—but you’re not sure what comes next.
That’s real. And that’s hard.
Solitude and Loneliness Are Not the Same Thing
Solitude can be beautiful. But when it’s not chosen—when it creeps in rather than being welcomed—it can feel heavy.
Even when it was chosen, some days still hit harder than others.
Even seasoned introverts can feel the ache of too much quiet. Me included.
So if you’re feeling it right now? There’s nothing wrong with you. You’re not doing life wrong. You’re just human. You’re just in a moment.
You’re Allowed to Miss People
It doesn’t make you weak. It doesn’t mean you’re failing at independence. Missing connection is part of being alive.
Send the text. Call your sister. Say yes to a catch-up. Or no, if you’re not up to it right now.
Loneliness isn’t always solved by people—but people do help. And if you don’t have people right now? That doesn’t mean you never will. Life turns. Chapters end. New ones start.
This is just one part of your story.
In the Meantime, Be Kind to Yourself
You don’t need to love every moment of living alone to still take care of yourself in it.
Eat real meals.
Make your bed.
Light the candle.
Put on music.
Talk out loud to yourself if it helps.
Be kind. To yourself.
Do what you can to make your space feel less like a holding cell, and more like a home.
Not because it fixes everything, but because small comforts matter.
Final Thoughts
If you’re struggling with living alone, I want you to know this:
You’re not broken.
You’re not a failure.
You’re not alone in feeling alone.
It’s okay to not be okay all the time.
This season won’t last forever. While you’re in it, I hope you can find ways to feel okay. Not perfect. Not amazing. Just okay.
That’s more than enough for now.